Delightful Start With a Bang

After a break in the sun lit Goa, I'm full of josh to turn a new leaf in life. So what do I plan to go full steam to make it a reality.

It all starts with planning, planning and planning. I'm a big time procrastinator, from work, to filing a PF form or to give a regular health check-up.

I've a simple plan. To jolt down the things to do for the day and DO IT. This I've attempted couple of times, but as days go by, my writing book is misplaced, and so does my plan.

But this time, I'm planning with iron clad commitment. I'm looking forward to build my sagging confidence too with my ardent desire to change.

I would love suggestions, comments and improvement tips or if you can exchange some notes to improve my drive

Last Sunday

Evening mass at St Partrick church has the usual tinge of sermon, crowd and prayer. In the end, it all looked the same. Priest was shouting, but his voice lacked clarity. I get to wonder if priest get an appraisal of their sermon? Do anyone tell them how boring or how it moved the congregation?

Why do priest disappear after they finish the mass? Why don't they come out & interact with the church goers?

Another question, how do they sexual gratification? without fornication, do they ** ? How many hold on to their vows?

How to Find New Interest In Marriage

Life moves from the fun & fiery filled bachelorhood to the static life of marriage life. Married life brings in an a rhythm, makes you more predictable. It's assured to bring lot of monotony and boredom.

Yesterday, while roaming with my wife at Forum Koramangala Bangalore , my thought dragged me ways to pep my marriage life.

• How can i bring excitement in life?
• How to meet more people in life?
• How to build new friends?
• How to socialize in Bangalore?
• How to pep up sex life?
• How to make weekend more productive?
• How to sustain a good hobby?
• How to engage in outdoor games?
• How to make new friends during weekends?

I wonder how people of my age group spend their weekends? Are they busy looking after their kids, house and thoughts about mortgage/aging? How does a fellow with little disposable income move in the social circles of Bangalore?

Street Fight Club Bangalore

For a small town fellow, the road rage in Bangalore was a shocker. Commuters in B'lore roads show violent behavior in the roads that's disturbing. I've seen numerous fights between car drivers, bike fellas and all these fights were for petty avoidable reasons.

Yesterday on the way to my office, I saw another fight on the road. I just had a glimpse of few guys having fist fight over some issue. It was crude fight and an old man too was getting blows. How can people become so violent over such mistakes while driving?

Can be blame it on the stress levels in Bangalore roads. Is it the selfish attitude of people, I me culture.

Life in Bangalore has changed from the laid back "pensioners" garden to the hectic fast paced life of BPO's and KPO's. Now there's no coming back, it's upto the people to bring bit more humaneness on the roads.

How can you bring a small change:

Honk less while driving - It reduces the heat on the road
Don't rush past - Anyways you have to wait for others at the next signal

Why Are Our Police Corrupt?

All is well as long a we're away from the long arm of LAW. In case we need to step inside the Police Station for any issues, right from Passport verification to any other complaints, we we get to see the greyer side of this department.

Couple of months back I had to vist hoysal to get a passport check for my Mom. These fellas, good at sniffing issues with her address etc made the case complicated. Since I did'nt want to prolong this task, I went for the easy way of pleasing this cop.

Yes, expected it and I gave to his gratification. 500 bucks to inside his khaki done away all the red-tape he was talking.

This makes me wonder what made these law enforcement people become just opposite of what our society wanted.

Few reasons I could find:

Underpaid & overworked

Lack of competency

Bad working conditions
Political interference in work
Low morale & lack of training
Long hours of work

Unorganized working/ Case reporting

Bad administration
Complicated working procedure

There are more to it, maybe you have better theories to the issue. Just like the Govt machinery, this department too stinks of corruption at all levels.

How can we take a step to improve the life of the Cop and make his work easier. Why not we digitalize lot more of his work, make it more transparent? Let make each of them more accountable for the torture ( latest) against innocent public.

Another suggestion is to make model police station which has all modern facilities like a top-notch BPO office. Good cafeteria, good gym, good recreation place, good library, 24/7 online connection facilicy, communication centre, organized working space, and finally put some good looking healthy female cops amidst them( sex ration 2:1).

Sex Drive Blues Away?

I'm not sure of this theory I've read somewhere or heard from someone. A recent happening made me probe on this topic.

I've a close friend who has a widowed sister. His sister is in her forties with one school going kid. She married early to a handsome, vibrant man. She has a great marriage life but her dream came to an end with his untimely death in 6 years of living together.

She had little formal education and after his death she became moody with mood swings. I have seen that dusky sister of my friend at different family occasions. She looks healthy with average looks and tempting figure.

Often my friend share his families effort to bring her back to a productive life. I too feel sorry to see her wasting her life, depending of her parents and siblings. Apart from that she is often falling sick, brooding with silly issues, facing low self confidence etc...

What can her way out to a better life, productive life and a happy life?

While there are many paths to break her misfortune but my theory is bit different like me.

It's all abt SEX. A good satisfying love life can take her blues and for it can usher positiveness and energy in life!

But the million dollar question? How can a widow who's not interested to remarry think of such a proposition. Answer to this rest of someone else or fate. If only a trusted, honest man can open her up to the pleasures of her body!

But I don't think that will happen in this life, unless she is damn lucky. She is living in a very close knit family, with very limited social life. Yes, an "inside man" can do it but there's danger of issues going out of her hand.

What's ur opinion on this? Will this work? Can she attain or reclaim her life with sex? Or is it just my naughty imagination corking such thoughts? Is there a way for widows and widowers to get satisfying sex? Is our society or immediate family doing anything to help them fulfill the basic need of life?

It's question for all of you? Has any study been done on the sex life of spouse after they loose their life partner?

Texting Gen!

I heard someone saying, that it only takes 3-5 years to make for a "generation gap", earlier it took a whole 2 to 3 decades. You too don't have to know it from me, just look around to see the fast changing life around you.

Old Land Phone Connection

I still vividly remember the time it took to get our land phone connection. After a long, long wait of over 3 years we got the phone in our living room. The excitement of hearing the phone ring in our living room was music to my ears. When guest came to visit our house, I wished the phone rang. The back log of getting connection also surface other elements to the telephone dept. Politicians had quota, telephone higher-ups could change your priority but all these now replaced by something new.

Now it's all history.Now it's the time for mobile phones to wipe away the influence of land phone.. Do you remember the time when a call to a girls house was considered tougher than crossing the great Berlin Wall.

I used to dread if the call is taken by her Dad, brother or her Mom. Most often, I disconnect the call if I found an unfamiliar "Hello" and many times, she had a bad cough and I mistook for her Mom.

Those little adventures of the BSNL/VSNL era now bite the dust. Now, school kids have mobile phones and SMS or video MMS of all weirdo kinds are circulated en masse. I wonder the impact of the young ones in India?

Well, it can spawn promiscuity among young people, easy relationship, easy s** talk and what not.

Life has changed for sure, the old values are gone and only remain in the soap operas and remains only in select few like me.