When Sex becomes a chores

After years of marriage, the sex ritual can be boring or just plain routine. After all the tips, tricks, and styles, I end up doing the same stuff.

After a week's abstinence I took my tool for another inconsequential drive . Just another twist and turn, and finally an uhm moment. Yes, another cuddling moment, that's part of my married existence.

What makes sex novel, interesting, charging? How can I make her to dizzying heights through a different route? How do couples around me arouse innovation in this game? Am I alone struggling to find a better way, each time, or is it just a fleeting thought from this fella?

What happened to the sizzling thought I carried in my 20's. How can I connect to those dazzling days, when I went around the town bedding my girl friends?

Casual Meet at the Market

It never occurred to me that I'll chanced to get a bit close to this Marvari lady at Chickpet market. I had gone there to buy cards for my brother's marriage. It was busy Sunday at this place with people of all kinds milling in this wholesale market.

After buying the big stack of400 cards I was heaving both of my bags across the main road. While I stood to cross the road, one auto dashed against one bag sending it down on the dirty road. For a minute I thought the whole card is going for a waste. Luckily nothing happened.

Be Brave

Stand up, be bold, be strong! Strength is life, weakness is death.These lines from the great Hindu monk reviberated in me, giving me some hidden strength I never had before.

How can words influence your mind to act at a higher potential. How long does this stay? does it get carried forward to the next day....

How can I imprint these words to my every day action?

Chill Drive

It takes a 15 min ride to reach home. This time of the year, climate is slowing shifting to a pleasant chill weather. Most often I ride without any jacket. It gives my sleak body a welcome shudder. After a 9 hr haul at office, the prospect of riding to home - to the welcome warm hands of my spouce makes the day complete.

Scratch & Win

Wish life gave such simple options to succeed. Well it don't, u only get such ludicrous slips only at shopping malls or retail out lets.

Taking abt such retail marketing funds, life too has a lot to do with scratch and win. We daily rub our shoulders with folks at work, at Gym or at park but we hardly go beyond scratching their ass no souls. Most often we only get a little out of them or give little of us.

As life gets more thiker, dense, artificial, we cover ourself with a web of intricate thoughts and false visions. Hardly we let other peek into our real self

Delightful Start With a Bang

After a break in the sun lit Goa, I'm full of josh to turn a new leaf in life. So what do I plan to go full steam to make it a reality.

It all starts with planning, planning and planning. I'm a big time procrastinator, from work, to filing a PF form or to give a regular health check-up.

I've a simple plan. To jolt down the things to do for the day and DO IT. This I've attempted couple of times, but as days go by, my writing book is misplaced, and so does my plan.

But this time, I'm planning with iron clad commitment. I'm looking forward to build my sagging confidence too with my ardent desire to change.

I would love suggestions, comments and improvement tips or if you can exchange some notes to improve my drive

Last Sunday

Evening mass at St Partrick church has the usual tinge of sermon, crowd and prayer. In the end, it all looked the same. Priest was shouting, but his voice lacked clarity. I get to wonder if priest get an appraisal of their sermon? Do anyone tell them how boring or how it moved the congregation?

Why do priest disappear after they finish the mass? Why don't they come out & interact with the church goers?

Another question, how do they sexual gratification? without fornication, do they ** ? How many hold on to their vows?

How to Find New Interest In Marriage

Life moves from the fun & fiery filled bachelorhood to the static life of marriage life. Married life brings in an a rhythm, makes you more predictable. It's assured to bring lot of monotony and boredom.

Yesterday, while roaming with my wife at Forum Koramangala Bangalore , my thought dragged me ways to pep my marriage life.

• How can i bring excitement in life?
• How to meet more people in life?
• How to build new friends?
• How to socialize in Bangalore?
• How to pep up sex life?
• How to make weekend more productive?
• How to sustain a good hobby?
• How to engage in outdoor games?
• How to make new friends during weekends?

I wonder how people of my age group spend their weekends? Are they busy looking after their kids, house and thoughts about mortgage/aging? How does a fellow with little disposable income move in the social circles of Bangalore?

Street Fight Club Bangalore

For a small town fellow, the road rage in Bangalore was a shocker. Commuters in B'lore roads show violent behavior in the roads that's disturbing. I've seen numerous fights between car drivers, bike fellas and all these fights were for petty avoidable reasons.

Yesterday on the way to my office, I saw another fight on the road. I just had a glimpse of few guys having fist fight over some issue. It was crude fight and an old man too was getting blows. How can people become so violent over such mistakes while driving?

Can be blame it on the stress levels in Bangalore roads. Is it the selfish attitude of people, I me culture.

Life in Bangalore has changed from the laid back "pensioners" garden to the hectic fast paced life of BPO's and KPO's. Now there's no coming back, it's upto the people to bring bit more humaneness on the roads.

How can you bring a small change:

Honk less while driving - It reduces the heat on the road
Don't rush past - Anyways you have to wait for others at the next signal

Why Are Our Police Corrupt?

All is well as long a we're away from the long arm of LAW. In case we need to step inside the Police Station for any issues, right from Passport verification to any other complaints, we we get to see the greyer side of this department.

Couple of months back I had to vist hoysal to get a passport check for my Mom. These fellas, good at sniffing issues with her address etc made the case complicated. Since I did'nt want to prolong this task, I went for the easy way of pleasing this cop.

Yes, expected it and I gave to his gratification. 500 bucks to inside his khaki done away all the red-tape he was talking.

This makes me wonder what made these law enforcement people become just opposite of what our society wanted.

Few reasons I could find:

Underpaid & overworked

Lack of competency

Bad working conditions
Political interference in work
Low morale & lack of training
Long hours of work

Unorganized working/ Case reporting

Bad administration
Complicated working procedure

There are more to it, maybe you have better theories to the issue. Just like the Govt machinery, this department too stinks of corruption at all levels.

How can we take a step to improve the life of the Cop and make his work easier. Why not we digitalize lot more of his work, make it more transparent? Let make each of them more accountable for the torture ( latest) against innocent public.

Another suggestion is to make model police station which has all modern facilities like a top-notch BPO office. Good cafeteria, good gym, good recreation place, good library, 24/7 online connection facilicy, communication centre, organized working space, and finally put some good looking healthy female cops amidst them( sex ration 2:1).

Sex Drive Blues Away?

I'm not sure of this theory I've read somewhere or heard from someone. A recent happening made me probe on this topic.

I've a close friend who has a widowed sister. His sister is in her forties with one school going kid. She married early to a handsome, vibrant man. She has a great marriage life but her dream came to an end with his untimely death in 6 years of living together.

She had little formal education and after his death she became moody with mood swings. I have seen that dusky sister of my friend at different family occasions. She looks healthy with average looks and tempting figure.

Often my friend share his families effort to bring her back to a productive life. I too feel sorry to see her wasting her life, depending of her parents and siblings. Apart from that she is often falling sick, brooding with silly issues, facing low self confidence etc...

What can her way out to a better life, productive life and a happy life?

While there are many paths to break her misfortune but my theory is bit different like me.

It's all abt SEX. A good satisfying love life can take her blues and for it can usher positiveness and energy in life!

But the million dollar question? How can a widow who's not interested to remarry think of such a proposition. Answer to this rest of someone else or fate. If only a trusted, honest man can open her up to the pleasures of her body!

But I don't think that will happen in this life, unless she is damn lucky. She is living in a very close knit family, with very limited social life. Yes, an "inside man" can do it but there's danger of issues going out of her hand.

What's ur opinion on this? Will this work? Can she attain or reclaim her life with sex? Or is it just my naughty imagination corking such thoughts? Is there a way for widows and widowers to get satisfying sex? Is our society or immediate family doing anything to help them fulfill the basic need of life?

It's question for all of you? Has any study been done on the sex life of spouse after they loose their life partner?

Texting Gen!

I heard someone saying, that it only takes 3-5 years to make for a "generation gap", earlier it took a whole 2 to 3 decades. You too don't have to know it from me, just look around to see the fast changing life around you.

Old Land Phone Connection

I still vividly remember the time it took to get our land phone connection. After a long, long wait of over 3 years we got the phone in our living room. The excitement of hearing the phone ring in our living room was music to my ears. When guest came to visit our house, I wished the phone rang. The back log of getting connection also surface other elements to the telephone dept. Politicians had quota, telephone higher-ups could change your priority but all these now replaced by something new.

Now it's all history.Now it's the time for mobile phones to wipe away the influence of land phone.. Do you remember the time when a call to a girls house was considered tougher than crossing the great Berlin Wall.

I used to dread if the call is taken by her Dad, brother or her Mom. Most often, I disconnect the call if I found an unfamiliar "Hello" and many times, she had a bad cough and I mistook for her Mom.

Those little adventures of the BSNL/VSNL era now bite the dust. Now, school kids have mobile phones and SMS or video MMS of all weirdo kinds are circulated en masse. I wonder the impact of the young ones in India?

Well, it can spawn promiscuity among young people, easy relationship, easy s** talk and what not.

Life has changed for sure, the old values are gone and only remain in the soap operas and remains only in select few like me.

Bangalore Muted Night life

I still wonder why Police and Politicians in Bangalore are still hell bend on 11:30 deadline in pubs and hotels. Despite critical comments by socialites, social figures and the articles in press, the night limits are still maintained in Iron clad laws.

Has Bangalore changed for real? How and why did this happen? Whose idea was it to ban the otherwise liberal night life in Bangalore? Has this city been taken by fanatical Hindu politicians who has an agenda on hiduvata kind of lifestyle.

Little they know that the modern life has come to an point that the old values has gone by the drain. The nuclear family lifestyle, and the expat population in Bangalore has long abandoned the old values of Indian psyche. BPO, KPO, Call centers, IT and all kinds of new jobs has made life mechanical, monotonous and materialistic.

The current BJP Govt comes with fanciful ideas and I believe this deadline is one of them. One of their idea stemmed on insisting Kannada medium across the state, but it badly backfired. Thanks to the judiciary. But where is the judiciary in this case. How can they stay mute to such gross violation of fundamental right of a citizen.

I'm also surprised by the way they maintain this 11:30 deadline. The very same cops who will fleeze 10 rs bribe from a street vendor come to a pub to ensure that no one stays inside beyond the 11:30 hr. Pub owners also know this well and ensures it with last order by 11:00.

I feel India after 60 years of Independence should should allow it's citizen more freedom, more choice in life rather than limiting the life as per the diktat of the State.

I'm still looking for a proper answer on this ban. If someone can help on to find a logical answer then I'll be content with it. Why are cities like B'bay, or Delhi or Hyderabad enjoy much relaxed night life?

Another worrying aspect of such curfew is that it will lead youngsters to find other means to extend life. No one can stop the lifestyle changed, it will come up in other forms more potent and

in ways no one would like to see.

In the end, I can find solace that in few years down things will change, but at that time my pristine time would be lost in the dim of time.

Revolt, young men and Women of Bangalore. Ask they why?

life through the pedal

Cycling & exploring the bylanes, the small crowded street in Bangalore has never been been so interesting. Taking my own sweet time, I pedal & watch life happening around the lanes around CMH road. As i make way, I see shop keepers, young moms dragging their kids to play schools, empty barber shop, vegetable vendors, scooter mechanics, bar counters, temple pujaris offering their rhetoric pujas, men with crooked faces, sexy lasses with with largess buttocks and old ladies with glittering silver hair.

What a mix of colors, life and struggle in my neighborhood. These are all living in the fringes of our big society, struggling to attain what others in big mansions have achieved. Everyone is one walking up to improve life from what it was a day before.

I went to Ham Shop to buy pork and keema. They sell good quality meat, but I don't like the service. There is no smile on the face of fellow who runs it. Why does he always look growling? By can't this sucker pass a smile at the customers? Why don't he keep change before he start his day?

Why does any biz owner insist for change from customers when he or she can plan ahead to keep change?

Life for me moves in circles and I too pedal towards a better future, a future with more connections & people.

Anyone is welcome to share your thoughts with me. Mail me for my phone number. Let's chat, find new connections in life.

Absolut Weather

Started today with bit of shower & the cloud cover stayed on. Now sipping tea, I just ponder on the day ahead of me.

Yesterday while leaving my work cubicle, another question came over me.

• What's have I achieved for that day?
• Did I make the best use of that day?
• IS working for whole 9 hrs in front of a flat screen a worth a day in my life?
• Did I communicate with any individual on a human level?
• Did I make a new friend or talk to a new person?

Answers to all these are negative, meaning my life at my cubicle has given me no avenue to meet or share real thoughts. How can I afford to leave a day without doing nothing and I believe most of the folks around me are going through the same boredom in life.

Now the question, is there a way out of this digital life? How can spread my wings to make connection in life? Do you have suggestion for you, for you on how to find more meaning in work, life and a day in your life.

If you're feeling quite the same way as I do, then feel free to connect. After all life is just a brief journey and we are supposed to be human. Mail me and contact me through phone.

Another Sunday thought

Reached late for the Sunday mass at St Patrick church. First thing I did at the church was to locate a vacant space to park my ass. Most the seats were filled with all kinds of believers and I took a chance to walk across to spot a vacant slot. I came to a place where 4 people were sitting and I managed to sit between two ladies. : )

Sitting between two middle aged beautiful ladies was a big distraction. I could hardly hear what the preacher's sermon. One point he said struck a chord - " don't come to church just for the sake of coming". Well he has a real point, and folks like me just come in with a distracted mind and leave equally distracted.

At communion time, my fav retired preacher, the one who looks like a Roman Emperor came to open the cabinet to take out the stainless steel box with the communion. This Sunday, I took the communion, just b'cos to please the people sitting next me .

The last hymn for this mass was sung by Mark, and I got goosebumps just listening to his voice.

Time spend In Your CAR

Recently on my way to office I waited in the Bangalore traffic snarl near to Forum mall, Koramangala. . While waiting, my eye wandered inside a car idling next to my scooter. There was a middle aged couple inside the car, and they were looking lost in their own thoughts.

This got me thinking on different ways to spend inside the four wheeler, esp while going for the routine travel.

What all things can you do while you’re with your spouse or with a comfortable member of opposite sex.

• Play naughty
• Play with each other’s hands
• Listen to a podcast, copy the file and play in the car
• Sing a song
• Talk to yourself

• By heart a poem
• Shout to your heart’s content
• Swear abt your boss
• whistle to a song
• Think of to-do list
• Talk abt life’s pressing problems
  
  
• Crack a chess puzzle (Mate in 5 moves)
• Think of ideas to give back to the world
• Drive traffic without honking
• Smile or laugh loudly
• Tell your partner to sing loudly

I've run out of ideas, so why don't u pitch in your thoughts on it. Sometimes, I wish had a four wheeler to do some of these acts.

For those who have the privilege of owning a car, please enjoy your time at the wheel..

Addition link on how to make sex in your car

Lucky Day

A cop barely missed out from stopping my scooter. Yes, that's lucky for me, or I have to shell out the little dough remaining in my account.

These cops are sly fellas waiting to pounce on miserable folks like me and you. Most often I feel pity for the small time guys being caught by the cops. The kinds of Cops you find in B'lore are mostly mad at draining money from hapless owners.

I wish I have some tip to help you wriggle out from a Cop. One big thing that helps if you're in B'lore is to talk in Kannada. Esp for outsider, it helps a lot. When they see you struggling with your half-bred kannada words, their language with spout giving you a slip from your

Difference is Not Skin Deep

Today I went to submit few bills at Canara Bank and at HDFC, situated in the same street. Both banks has different interiors, different kind of personality, people, staff and even the kind of security.

This got me to think of good, grey and dull points about these two banks. I've listed few points and few suggestions for our old-time bankers.

HDFC Bank

• Glass doors, well lit interiors
• Beautiful ladies in the counters
• Smart young manager
• Dressed perfectly
• Clean, neat and organized
• Fleece you with additional payment at every service point
• Sometimes very sterile & impersonal ( like a snobbery/money mindedness)

Canara Bank

• Crowded at the disbursement counter
• People waiting for their turns
• Dim interior
• Underutilized floor space
• Older employees
• Ladies don't tempt me wrong
• Cash counter in a iron mesh
• More people from the middle class and lower income group (my kind)
• Ask a stupid question and the teller will frown

While the public sector banks work for the common man, the other flashy ones like ICICI, or HDFC serve more creamy layer of the society. I wonder if that's making all the difference or it it the general attitude of the bank..

Why don't Canara bank or SBI pull up their sleeves to give the common man a better service a better teller to make the experience enjoyable.

There could be several reasons. One is the lack of money, the management styles, organization structure or it's just their nature to be like this.

What can you do to make your interaction with the bank an interesting and pleasant experience.

what Govt banks can do:

• An assistant on the floor ( an usher ) Esp, when old folks come in
• Put a sexy broad with a pleasant smile at the teller counter
• Optimize the sign-in forms ( some changes)
• Educate customer to use online service
• Cross-sell other services through in-house marketing agent ( esp housing, personal loan, gold loan)

Oh, my steam has run out. Pls do help our older gen banks to compete and thrive in the new world.

Holy Saturday!

First half of Saturday was wasted with some household chorus and half way through my Activa broke down. What a way to start a weekend.

And on a fine Saturday morning, I pushed my scooter all the way to my scooter Garage. I didn't wait over there instead walked to the near by store to instill my spirits with a hot cup of tea.

This takes me back to my fav question, how to spend the weekend, the most productive way.

what are the common answers you get in your mind.

• Watch movies at home or at any theater
• Call friends and renew ties
• Clean the windows, doors or places that's normally left out
• Buy and stock all provisions for the week
• Pay all credit card bills on time
• Pay rent & pay wages to maid
  
  
  
• Visit local events/exhibitions
• Visit local friends/relatives
• Got to a local club and play snooker or play badminton
  
  
  
• Make love to your partner or have phone sex or flirt
• Visit any malls and spend wisely
• Go to coffee day and spend an hour with a 45 rs coffee
• Go to commercial for window shopping
• Visit some lake side and spend some time enjoying the wind
  
  
• Got to Lal Bagh and sleep in the green grass
• Got to a nearby pub and enjoy a chill beer

How do you spend your weekends? Do you spend it productively? Are you enjoying the brief break with sleep and equal doze of TV? Are you doing something different?

Bank Teller

Had to visit the local HDFC bank. Like every organization, banks too has it's work style, office layout, staff and ambiance.

Today I went to deposit 2.5k for my friend and I reached by 9: 40 and I didn't know that HDFC bank opens biz only by 10:00.

Inside the bank I filled the pay-in-slip and stood in the queue. It was by 10:10 when the lady came in her counter. I know few ladies in this bank by looks. There r two female who are fair, smart, sexy and over smart.

It was my turn and I gave the dough along with the slip. As usual she scanned the currency I gave, while I scanned her for love bites! : )

What do you do when you pay bills at the counter? Do you look at her/him with blank expression or do you intensely focus your sight on the best things on that person. Do you mark her dress, he expression, her :) : ) or just take ur thoughts into other pressing problems of ur life. Do you form an opinion about that person, give them your points in a scale of 1 to 10 or just ignore them.

In this case, my sight took me to her pearl ear rings, her big glands, her expression, her hair style, her little cleavage open through her kurta.

As usual my eyes wandered at the lady's charming face with few questions. Who had created this beauty, did she have sex yesterday or does she lead a happy life, is she happy in this job? All these silly thoughts cloud over me and I wait for her to stamp the counterfoil.

Then she says, bank will deduct some amount b'cos I'm transferring to a third-party account. Ok, that's the pain with these Pvt banks. They charge for every dam thing get hold on.

Now, it's your turn to tell your TELLER story.

What thought crowd over you while you wait for your turn? Do you use it productivity to think of something, or waste on such sensual or wandering fetish thought on a beautiful stranger?

What does a Bank do to engage people who are waiting for their thought? Are they leaving out a biz opportunity? Why can't they find a way to make the visit interesting for the customer as well as for the bank?

Think out of the banker's way and find a way to implement it in ur biz!

Why Women's Changes her Mood

Dammit . One day she maintains good eye contact, talk freely on silly topics, smiles at me and all these makes me skip a beat. Yes, it also makes me build a castles in air.

Next day I again meet her, but then she is not the same women. She sees through me, she has a vacant look, no joke and I get dejected with women.

Women and Moods Swings
How often have you felt in this miserable situation. I've been through many such scenario leaving me foul mouthed, dejected, feeling low about myself, contempt at my inability to arouse interest in women.

Every time a lady treats me like this, I wonder why I took her so seriously. But all the time I fall for the same trick.

What's the science behind such mood changes in women or is it that I failed to excite the lady? Did my talk fail to shoot the temp in her curiosity meter?

Anyways, I end up as looser a way side jerk. In the end, I end up with my wife to console and talk these misfortunes and she laughs wildly as my stupid dream.

Pin Your Thoughts

Absolut weather in Bangalore. After the scorching heat of May, july has presented us a beautiful climate. In this climate I love to sip hot tea and coil in a fetus position. But sadly, life has not given me the luxury of staying too long in my wrought iron bed. I've my credit cards to pay, I've to support my Mom and provide to my low-maintenance wife. All this and my pursuit of happiness pushes me to clock in the sterile and impersonal working space.

Few years back I used to dream of working in a similar cubicle space. But years of working in such place is becoming less appealing. So, how do you make the little space interesting and personal.

Some colleagues pin their fav Gods, some scenic places, place some bunnies or stress busters at their desktops.. What about your husband's/wife's/girlfriends pic …. Well, I don't see that in Indian work stations.. Does Indian consciousness stop you from flaunting them...

Question to you.

How do you leave a personal touch to your working space? Here're are few options that came to my mind:

• Pin a Pic of your pet/spouse
• Post a pic of your dream
• Place a quote
• Paste a poem
• Magnetic buttons
• a naughty line
• Pin a smiling pic
• Keep trinkets
• Put something that makes you laugh
• something that makes you thinks
• Something sensual or arty
• Anything related to your work
• Extension numbers
• To- do- list
• quote
• a poem
• a naughty line
• humor image..
• Something that makes you laugh
• something that makes you thinks
• Something sensual or arty
• Anything related to your work
• Extension numbers
• To- do- list

Jolt down your idea to make the time you spend in your work place, interesting, personal and appealing.

Why travel alone?

Wow.... this was on my mind. How to connect with fellow travels? I travel frequently to kerala by train and by bus. Since I prefer train travel I see lot of people with whom I wish I could connect.

Have you thought on those lines?

Read this article

Barbara S Peterson

On a flight from Newark to the West Coast not long ago, Jeff Jarvis, author of the book ‘What Would Google Do?’ got into a conversation with a fellow flyer familiar with his work. But it was not a face-to-face chat. Rather, it started as an exchange of Tweets at the boarding gate.

When the plane landed, Jarvis recalled, the conversation resumed. “It was as if someone had recognized you and come up to say, ‘hello’, on the flight.” He said it reminded him of the days when passengers could socialize in airborne lounges, “except now it’s happening digitally”. Mobiles and laptops are not just tools to stay in touch with the office or home anymore. A growing number of flyers are using their mobile devices to create an informal travelers’ community in airports and aloft.

Airlines and social media providers are scrambling to catch up. Airlines are beefing up their presence on networking channels, and travelers’ groups like FlyerTalk.-com have created new apps that allow members to find one another while on the road. Travelers can use these services to share cabs to the airport, swap advice or locate colleagues in the city. As Jarvis puts it, “finding a like-minded person to travel with lessens the chance of getting stuck next to some talkative bozo” on a long flight.

More than 10 airlines in North America are wiring their planes for web access, and foreign airlines are introducing technology that will let flyers connect on transoceanic flights. Airlines are also testing in-flight calls. NYT NEWS SERVICE

MESSAGING TAKES A FLIGHT: As travellers increasingly use mobile devices to contact fellow flyers, airlines & social media providers are scrambling to catch up.

Mid week Madness

Wednesday's gives the interim time-out from the heat of week and an interlude to the hopeful weekend. On this day I get numerous text message, invitation from clubs for the mid-week banger. But I ignore all these club invitation knowing very well that my purse can't stand the heavy cover-charges.

But I don't miss out the fun. I go to my regular pubs to hear the pulsating musik. Besides tap beer, I watch & admire young ladies who flaunt their drinking at the expense of some freaks.

Merry Merry Men

During my college years I had male friends who made such funny jokes at things, people and themselves. I used to laugh my heart out with such cracking wit.

I don't have the skill to repeat a joke or to make a dig at anyone. I'm more of listener kind who will willingly give my heart to anyone who share a word or two

Years away, I still long for such funny men in my life. In my current life there's no one shudder me loud laughter. I'm searching for someone with a merry heart.

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Women with Glasses

I had this queer fetish/attraction/awe towards women who wear spectacles. It does not apply to all girls/ladies/women but to those who get an intellectual/serious/bookish/ looking-kind and who gives A No-Nonsense looks. Someone you won't think of foolin around!

These are rare breed of women with good physic, looks and most important the way they carry themselves. I've never interacted with such kind of species so it still remain an unknown factor for me.

Why do I think so?

Women is women, with or without glasses but for me women wearing glasses kind-of gives a kick in my heart. Why?

Is it b'cos they give an air of not being approachable?
Or give an air of superior being with all their literary wealth?

I remember the late John Abraham, Malayalam director who had the same kind of fancy.

Yes, there are many like me who share such fetish.... read this from the plenty fish forum..

Few comments from other men:

• For few men, glasses added another layer of beauty to the woman
• For some they make you look more mature and smart.
• One thought it must be that old librarian/school teacher fantasy but some women just look so much hotter wearing them
• I like when a woman who wears her glasses, and with the high heel shoes to.
• Nothing is sexier than looking down and seeing a woman put on her safety glasses.
• Omg yes! Women who wear glasses are definately sexy... Of course they must "suit" her....and not just any old glasses. I like an intellectual woman. (smart, but not smart alec)...lol
• Men seldom make passes at girls who wear glasses. (Dorothy Parker)
• I will admit I have
• not found all women who wear glasses as sexy.

Do you have similar thoughts?

Ladies @ Church

Sunday mass is part of my life. Since the time I got married, my wife made me follow it religiously . During my hay days as a single existence, I would skip most Sundays except when my heart was heavy with grief.

We go to St Patricks church in Bangalore. This old roman styled chruch situated near to the end of Bridgade road has beautiful decor, well ornated styles, with big pillars. I love the exterior, interior and love watching the beautiful believers who come to worship.

We go for the 11:00 clock mass and most of the time we sit at the left side of the pulpit. From where we sit, I can see the choir ladies and the priest.

If i'm lucky I get to seat next to some pretty young stuff who wear off dress for a Church. Tee shirts, colorful skirts gives this mass a feeling of a club. There are men who wear neat formals and my wife spare no words to appreciate them.

I as usual with dandruff in the hair and with lazy eyes watch the sermon and watch/listen to the choir with admiration.

I like one priest who does the final announcements... He looks like a roman emperor with sparing white hard and voice that drags..... announcements for this week......

Under my watchful eyes he opens the chamber(communion) and take the steel container to the ante chamber. Then in golden chaise the priest will raise the cup for the heavenly toast.

After the mass I hover around the church full of strangers, watching the pettiete women and young misies chit-chatting with prospective studs.

I've more to talk about the wealthy, fashionable crowd in the next post. Here's one old pic of St Patricks church...

Before We reach for the Moon!

India is in the league of nations capable of exploding N-bombs, sending big satellites, and now we talk of reaching the moon. All these tech growth and IT boom look cool in paper. But what’s the sloppy side with Indian life…

Infrastructure Bottlenecks

Roads, judiciary, police, govt administration, power are in shambles. In 6o years, what have we achieved in those fronts. Do we have a real plan of action for the next generation. We streach everything to the last minute(like me) and out of sheer necessity try to come with a half-backed solution.

Today on a wonderful satruday, electric supply was intermittently going out. What a terrible waste of time, effort and efficiency.

Why can’t there be reliable power? Or at least have a proper time for power cuts. In Bangalore, I dread every big rain, as it can cause power issues.

Yesterday was no exception, the power which went around 4:30 came by 10:30.

I feel so frustrated that I can't do anything abt it. Literally at the mercy of the power providers. All the IT companies or even small biz can't survive in India without their own power back-up.

Now there's something possible. I too can buy on gen-set or inverter to light my house but with my budget I don't think that's happening.

Those of you, on the greener side of bank balance should take this as a priority. Fix inverters and get uninterrupted power without BESCOM's help. Or you install solar power. I had the plan to buy a small solar panel at least to light a bulb

And if you're too generous or high on savings you can provide me an alternative arrangement, or buy stand-by power to your parents home.

Light their lives.

Women @ work.

I work in a team of 20+ men & women. Out of this 12 are the fairer sex (lucky me). You can image all the shapes and sizes, and colors of these broads from all sides & corner of India. Our tech crew is lead from the front by a spinster in her 30’s. She is one of second most arrogant women I’ve worked with . call her nasty bit**, who eats my head with her distrust on my work.

I’ll talk more about her in another post.

From the outside our team looks united, colorful, and vibrant. But, coming closer u can find the divisions, petty ego thoughts, compatility issues and I’m-the-best-kind –of-attitude.

Sometimes I don’t feel like running away from work, but can’t it’s a bread & butter issue.

I feel more threatened by the women in the lead than with the guys. Why have the tables turned to this way? Has women taken over men? Are they too competitive? Are they trying to prove too smart beyond what they are?

Yes, women are smarter. They are articulative, they communicate well, and have patience to sit at one place for a pretty long time. Something, which I find too hard.

Each day I find each one in a different mood. Why do they have such mood swings? It is the moon phase, the menstrual phase.

One day, Brinda talks so well to me, next day she is in her own world. Other day, Lakshmi, the pump Andra girl with big ass was discussing freely about her house hold chores but next day she was ignored me with her busy texting …

Despite all these swinging moods, women is a good companion, gives that feminine beauty at work place. Sometimes they show their tender side, and I love to hear them confide of their mother-in-law issues etc…

Few random questions?

How do you feel about the women from your work place?
Are they willing to share or teach all they know?
Do they hold back their knowledge?
Do you have good women friends at your work place?
Or you stay away from opposite sex relationship

Welcome Rain

It's morning and it's drizzling outside. What's more sweet than the sound of rain, the early morning chill, and a hot cup of coffee.

Just enjoying these simple pleasures of life, makes it worth living. Last time when I went to Kerala by train, I passed the over-flooded fields and watched the fresh lively water flowing out of it's small banks... It's always a welcome sight, away from the dark gutters of Bangalore and the noisy horn from vehicles.

Monsoon in Kerala

To the rain lovers, I would suggest you to visit Kerala. The hotel rates are low, you can get a house boat for rent for lesser rates and enjoy the lashing rain. Stay at a place where u can just watch the rain or have a balcony facing any river or back-waters.

Page 3 Bangalore

Every day Times of India flashes socialites in their supplement. I make sure to check it out everyday. U wonder why? Did I scoop down to see the latest trendy fashion or to see the movers and shakers of this city? WRONG.

I just dig to see the new hot-wires with awesome low cut tops. Sometimes, I envy these socialites for their party life… hope they enjoy

Love is just outside the fish bowl
Life in metro is synonym with parties, meeting, drinking etc. Yes, if you're in their mailing list, you too can run shoulders with the trendy, flashy, intellectual and most happening folks from Bangalore.

But for most middle-class folks like me, we're left to battle our life between work and home, leaving no room for such social mix.

Are you one of those page 3 kinds? Or just another soul like me meandering for love, affection and attention.

Yours in page 3

How to touch a women in a pub!

Have u touched a women in a pub? Deliberately!

Yes, there are horny men like me who, given a chance will wriggle the hands at the slightest of opening! he..he...

When this topic came in while I was randomly browsing the net. Google suggesting me on this topic and it got me thinking no it.

Last weekend for the Germany, Argentina match I went to Extreme Sports bar. It was damn crowded despite the cover charges. I planted myself next to a couple hoping to let my hand play tricks on her skirt. But she proved a dampener. She moved away!

Later that evening after coming out of the pub, my lady was telling me that one freak next to her was using his hand generously on her ass. With little space, she was in a jam.. wonder if she loved it.. or was it pretense.

Most often, I get random touch-points with women at most crowded pubs Purple Haze in Bangalore. As a frequent visitor, I stand next to the counter and pray to God for some good catch. What's better when the beer guzzles inside while I get some freebies.

Do you have idea to share on the same lines.

Don't take me wrong. I'm not a ass grabber. It's a mutual stuff, where lady too enjoy a little bit of petting from a strangers hand. As long as it's consensual, it's fun to have a good time in a pub.

Now ladies turn?

Are you turned on by such random or accidental touch?

Do you feel irritated when someone touches you inappropriately?

Do you get mellowed after few drinks?

Do you get annoyed with such unholy transgressions?

Do you mind if the guy is handsome, polished and don't overdo it?

Do you give the opportunity for guys to touch you, but u feign ignorance?
Or it just depends on your mood?

Looking for upright, true answers from any women and also guy's opinion matters?

Additional resources:
lovedose
How to touch a girl
eHow

Friends, Friends!

Last word in eternal union between two individuals. I cherish havin tons and tons of friends. Yes, I used to have many pals to talk, share thoughts and drop in their house without a call or invitation. Most these who fell in my 'friends' list where guys I had collected during college and post college years. At that time I regarded my abundant friends mix as sign of my social worth and as a trophy of my friendliness.

Then time moved on. I started working, they also moved away. Brighter folks went abroad leaving me at my hometown with a small time job.

Now in Bangalore, I'm loner as a large iceberg in the cold Atlantic. Drifting aimlessly in the Bangalore current, melting my time and thinking of those wonder years with my friends. Sometimes I think of the house visits, how I converse with my friends and their family..... all is gone under the mat, now it's me and my lady.

Pathetic as it sounds, I still crave to have people around me. People who can call me, confide on me, talk some rubbish... why can't I make it now. Can a married man at forty start making new friends? or does acquiring new friendship stop with 20's.

Corporate life in Bangalore hasn't given me a single friend. All of us leave separate lives and there's no connectivity during weekend. Busy existence with their own gigs & worries. I just wonder abt their personal life?

If you're reading this post, u can cast ur suggestion. Give me ideas to grow friends through real life interaction. Maybe, I should join some club. But I don't have that kind of dough! Poor me.

Do everyone go through such phase in life? Do friends last or they just go downunder never to come back. Is there a way to reactivate friends from distant lands. Here's what one blogger has to say on that...

Yogic Distractions

I started going for yoga, the most popular holistic exercise for Indians. It's been more than 4 months and I'm loving the twists and turns.

Now, Sarvangasan or head stand just another feat for me.

Yoga is meant to improve the concentration level, but here is the catch! When I turn around or bend my eye falls on pretty ladies who flashes their undiluted cleavages. Can't resist the feeling to steal-a-peek!

Distractions Gal-lore!

Can't help it, with all the twist and turn, my eyes can't resist. Sometimes, it takes a ton of will power to focus on the Asansa and not of the forbidden views...

Do you have a remedy for this? I need to focus more on my breathing, but such a feat makes my heat skip a beat and my breathing.

Damn it! Women still distracts this old wimp.

Fishy habits

I love fish. all types, shapes, kinds. From Mackerel to expensive king fish I love having it day and night. All these traits r inborn for every Keralaite or every person living in the coastal belt.

One day I want to open an exclusive fish restaurant. Yes, it's on my wish list. What's better than opening a biz that you love to do!

Taking of fish, my locality is blessed with two fish stalls. Both are equally good. I feel most localities r not very familiar with the fish we r exposed. Lucky!

My wife makes yummy fish curry and with a veg curry, a rasam or pulisheri with pappadam I can't resist the temptation.

It's not good to eat alone, so if you're a fishy at heart, please do join us. Pay and eat and share our courteous lunch.... another way to connect!

How optimized are you?

Surely, you can optimize a website or a blog for traffic - & yield better results

You can optimize your work at home - manage household chores

You can optimize your workout - Get faster and stronger
You can optimize your diet - lose weight and gain muscle
You can optimize your sleeping patterns - Get forty winks & relax more

You can optimize your driving - Save time & gas
You can optimize your thoughts - meditate & think sharp

and you can even optimize your sex life.....

I've left other optimization for you. This idea was taken by Seth Godin's bog. I suggest you to read it as a daily feed for new ideas, marketing thoughts and how to optimize your life for better living.

Give me points to optimize this blog?

Family + Food = Happiness

Does this simple formula guarantee you a happy life? Going by the report I read in Times of India, it looks like it's true.

But how often do we connect with our family? Nuclear family has aborted old ways of life. It's dad, mom and kids.. Family meetings are limited to marriages and young people are too busy in social media life and they r not keen to meet cousins or to visit uncles or aunts...

That leaves room for friends, co-workers, to fill the void..

Friends + food = Happiness

How often does a married man give his wife?

Twice, thrice a week? in Thrice then you're lucky..

Women wants it, woman must have it. He never makes the first move; he never puts his hands anywhere. The women call me up, saying there is a fault a in their cable. they touch me, they sit next to me, but I will let a couple of days go by. .....

He has fuc** many, from teen to fifty + housewife..

Do not Try this at HOME

The Aghoris have a special athletic technique to make love. The man makes the girl clasp a tree,
then raises the girl's leg and puts it on his shoulder...... Waheguru!

Can't imagine my wife clasping coconut tree.... hee...he..he..

It' an excerpt from Maximum city by Suketu Mehta... just started reading it...

Swing Charles!

Why this name, you might wonder. U might take me as a swinger on the prowl. and u may or may not be wrong...

Life is full of unexpected ifs and buts. What's there in a name...

What's in a name? That which we call a rose - quote from Bard. But name does makes ur stuff more popular...

I'm bad at naming, and this is the only thing that crossed my path.. so be it..

Bangalore as any other city is full of people claiming what's they are not... I'm becoming an unknown component of this place, and swing charles is part of the adventure to connect to people with whom I love to talk...

Are you interested to know more? I don't have time to chat.. just call, let's talk easy, talk plain..

Trail trip

I didn't complete on what I wrote about travelling by train. Every time I travel by train, I've hight hopes of sitting next to someone from the opposite sex. But, true to my luck, I never, never get a chance to interact, talk or just sit next to a pretty thing.

Most often, as this time too speaks, I sat next a very disinterested lady who was busy talking to her boyfriend. Damn it...

With hundred of fairer sex travelling in the same train, why can't I connect with a single one. Why does it have to work only by chance luck? We have come a long way in networking sites, but there is no application to help us connect with fellow travelers...

Some time back I have met few guys, and it turned out they were interested to know about my work and ideas abt online conversions.. Yes, such interaction was pretty interesting... yes, I love to connect not just with pussi** but also with men with ideas, thoughts to set new biz...etc..

Even that is not possible. We sit in our own space, consumed with our thoughts, and in the end of the journey we part to own forgotten lives...

NB: pussi** ( means what? oh that vulgar slang I love to use)

Sorry, if my thoughts are too sexist and baring. If so, you're requested to bail out immediately without leaving a nasty comment.

Thanks

Bing

Two beautiful Country Chickens

Ys, I love those naive looking women from "Mallu land". I happen to visit Muthot branch in Trivandrum to take release of a gold loan. Poor me....

While at the branch I had to wait, an eternal with Indian life. While I was waiting, I was watching wo ladies working in this branch. They looked very neatly dressed in Sari with " chandan" bindi smeared on the forehead. One female had a red bindi as a mark of her married status..

They were moving around the cash counter, and my lazy eyes locked at their little bunnies pooping through the side. Oh, I would love to work with such kind of ladies, not the sophisticated and cold women at my work place.

I had to wait for 20 minutes and I don't mind with these damsels..

Nice ladies. I hope the guys working there enjoy their company? Have u experienced such interesting men and women working in banks, or in public institutions.. How do you kill your time while you wait for something to happen...

Well u can listen from ur mobile
You can read

Yu can call up a lost friend and renew ties

Or just act dump and see such sights..

Watching them makes the time go by, at least when you're asked to wait, wait and wait....

Are men more promiscuous than women?

Trivial sex illusions

Well, it depends! ( My version) Settled women or newly married ones are dedicated to their partners but men, there are always are on the lookout? Women are more focused on what's their on their platter. They are passionate on what's near them. Men on the contrary are nomadic tribes, willing to venture out.

An article from Bangalore Mirror tells, men think about sex every seven seconds. Do you subscribe to this view?

How often do women think of sex... ? God Knows... Well, my lady has this wired to her brain... not that she would admit it?

Egg shell of Embryo

Every home visit calls for fresh laden thoughts of people I met, the beef, mutton & fish I have. Yes, food is a great revelation.

I loitered around Medical college locality in Trivandrum and found that place stinking and unorganized. Why haven't it changed. System looks decayed, people still going in their ritualistic chaos.

Had coffee from the Indian coffee house at Medical college.

Garib Rath from Kerala

Packed Garib Rath landed at Banaswadi by 9:00. Mallu folks of all shapes and sizes, uncles, aunts, broads, chicks, chicken and stags all walking in unison to reach their next home. I took on my bags and descended to the front yard of railway station. As soon as you reach the frontyard, all the lecher auto fellas start swarming. These guys ask crazy rates and there's no escape unless you get real lucky!

I'm not good with bargaining so I leave the arena and go out to one lonely corner, hoping to catch the attention of any good Samaritan auto fella. But, even after waiting for 30 minutes there's No luck. Just me, and my two over grown bags.

Had another tea and waited. Then asked few auto guys, they didn't bother even to take me.

Started walking with those bags, while I saw rich chicks & guys getting on the cab. I'm no rich, and I cursed myself pulling my large bag on my shoulder.

why did I get rich? well that's for another post!!!

Fortunately, I get a break. An auto chap agreed and I get back faith. He agreed to take me at meter rate!!! And believe me I reach my home in 50 bucks. I wanted to give that fellow a 5 rs tip, but didn't have nor wanted him to give 10 rs extra.

So, got to get ready to work... chao.

Let's Unleash

I'm frustrated, I'm idiotic, I'm a voyeuristic fellow for reasons I'm not sure. Maybe, It's all part of the middle age crisis. Life has to be lived, life has to be shared, life has to be taught. So, here I'm with my first post.

My intend from this blog is clear. I was to share my dark closet thoughts and with people with similar grey cells. Yes, it's not just reading some stupid post, I seek to connect, talk to people, make love to women, talk to intelligent freaks, share all kinds of desktop fantasies with growing men.

I'm here to challenge my own words! can it echo well into the cyber wilderness and fetch watch I seek. Time will tell, by I'm optimistic to meet and hear from men, women, couples from Bangalore!

Any thoughts, shoot me a mail at swingchargles@gmail.com or call me up.